The Tony Robbins Effect (With Beers)
Host: Conrad Francis
Drink: Young Henry Natural Lager
If you want something bad enough, pull up your watermelon pants and do the work.
In this week's episode, we’re talking about Tony Robbins, and how to develop a winning mindset. Later in the episode we dive into styles of leadership and unpack the question: Should we live to help or serve people?
This round is on Conrad “Swaggy-C” Francis with the support of Matt Hanham, Justin Bourn, Michael Duncan, and Jacob Moffit. The Simple Minds Podcast unravels topics such as personal development, philosophy, life and business - one drink at a time.
- The Tony Robbins Effect [2:13]
- Leadership - To Help or Serve? [25:00]
The Tony Robbins Effect [2:13]
Tony Robbins. The man, the god and the holy spirit. If you’re unaware of who we’re talking about - do you live in a cave? Stop looking at the shadows on the wall, you’ve got some catching up to do. Hey Mike, did you like the sweet philosophical reference? Just for you buddy.
Tony Robbins is an entrepreneur, life coach and philanthropist. He’s most known for his self-development books and seminars on unlocking the power within. We recommend checking out his YouTube channel to get an overview of his work.
Conrad recently rewatched the Netflix special Tony Robbins: I’m Not Your Guru and has been reflecting on his own journey with the message Tony shares. Growing up, Conrad hated him. From late night infomercials, he blended with the usual late night crap on television. However, it wasn’t till Conrad watched Tony’s Ted Talk on 9/11 that he began to understand Tony’s message and purpose. Tony talks largely on how to unleash the strength within, to achieve what you want to achieve in life. Whether that be within relationships, business or personal development.
Rewatching I’m Not Your Guru reminded Conrad of the poem “The Will To Win” by Berton Braley. The poem describes the mindset needed to push to achieve your dreams.
“If you want a thing bad enough
To go out and fight for it,
Work day and night for it,
Give up your time and your peace and your sleep for it,
If only desire of it
Makes you quite mad enough
Never to tire of it,
Makes you hold all other things tawdry and cheap for it,
If life seems all empty and useless without it
And all that you scheme and you dream is about it,
If gladly you'll sweat for it,
Fret for it,
Plan for it,
Lose all your terror of God or man for it,
If you'll simply go after that thing that you want
With all your capacity,
Strength, and sagacity,
Faith, hope, and confidence, stern pertinacity,
If neither cold poverty, famished and gaunt,
Nor sickness nor pain
Of body and brain
Can turn you away from the thing that you want,
If dogged and grim you besiege and beset it,
You'll get it”
Matt also connects with this poem. He has it framed and up in the office. The poem is a reminder of when things get tough to question: How bad do you want it?
When you want something, you need to question what you’re willing to do, and sacrifice, to win. The downfall is when we play with the victim mindset. When things don’t go our way, we blame those of us around us, rather, than looking within ourselves to find the root of the problem.
The outcome of hard work may not always manifest the way you expect it to. If it does, don’t be deterred from it. When you focus on the end result, rather than the journey, you can never grow or expand your horizon of opportunity. The best thing you can do for yourself is to embrace the journey, and put in the hard work. The reward comes with time and a whole lot of sweat.
Leadership - To Help or Serve? [25:00]
If you’ve ever watched a Tony Robbins talk, you’ll know how often he speaks on service and serving people. Conrad questions the meaning to serve someone and whether there is a difference between serving and helping?
To help someone implies there is a short-term reward to be gained from the act. Whereas to serve someone means to act in a way that will provide someone with long-term gratification.
For instance, you may help someone fix a problem. You relieve the stress or internal conflict they’re feeling. To help someone, you’re not allowing someone to learn through experience, and grow from potentially failing.
To serve someone, a leader will encourage and support someone to become the person they want to become. Whether, that manifests in letting someone fail to learn a lesson, or enabling them to outgrow the business and go on and do the work they want to do/is better suited to them.
Below is an image that illustrates the difference in traditional leadership and Servant leadership.
Source: Food Engineering
The traditional model of leadership demonstrates the typical leadership model, and what we’ve grown to expect. The leader sits on top of the pyramid telling others what to do.
Servant Leadership puts the leader on the bottom. Rather than dictating how someone is to work and thrive within the environment, the servant leader will support and develop team members to become the best versions of themselves, to then better serve the business.
The difference in leadership styles comes down to the ego. Traditional methods allow little room for mistake and cater to the leader maintaining control over the outcome. Servant methods have the long game in mind.
The best leaders will empower others to do the work. However, to empower others the work needs to start with the leader. To serve others, you need to serve yourself first.
What’s your opinion on leadership methods? Get in contact with us and share your successes or failures with different leadership styles.
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Mentioned in This Episode
- I’m Not Your Guru - Tony Robbins (Netflix)
- Tony Robbins Ted Talk - Why We Do What We Do
- “The Will To Win” poem by Berton Braley