Host: Marco Noe
Drink: Moët & Chandon Imperial Champagne
Are you doing the thing that you’re passionate about? If not why aren’t you doing it?
In this week's episode, we talk about our own self-discipline habits. Later in the episode, we discuss our ideal day if money was no concern.
This round is on Marco Noe with the support of Matt Hanham, Justin Bourn, Michael Duncan, Conrad “Swaggy C” Francis and Travis Hayto. The Simple Minds Podcast unravels topics such as personal development, philosophy, life, and business - one drink at a time.
- Self Discipline [5:35]
- Planning your ideal day if money was no concern [31:20]
Discipline and self-love
We’ve learned that self-love is the key to unlocking personal growth. You need to value yourself and your worth if you wish to grow.
Matt is first with content this week, and we’re talking self-discipline. Not ego. Well, maybe a little talk of ego. But by now you know we can’t help it.
Recently Will Smith created a vlog about self-discipline being correlated with self-love. Matt was attracted to this statement: Self-discipline is the definition of self-love.
Matt asks the group to discuss the statement and share what it means to them.
Mike attempts to reverse the statement and believes that self-love creates self-discipline rather than self-discipline creating self-love. If discipline is the action, the action is predicated on the virtue of value. There needs to be a foundation of love before you can take further action.
Procrastination is where ego lays, but discipline feeds a higher purpose. Self-discipline comes from the self-awareness of who you are and what your habits are. For instance, there are always tasks that you have to do but when you don’t do them you feel annoyed and frustrated with yourself.
There is no point whining when you’re aware of what you need to do. Just do it.
“If you take action on a path to being your true self, you have to to be self-disciplined to not fall into the echoes of society” - Justin [13:00]
It’s so easy to justify your behavior when you’re caught up in the noise of what others are doing. But that’s your ego. Stop f*cking stroking it. We’ve been over this.
“The discipline side of it is the honouring of yourself. You can only honour yourself if you love and value yourself” - Conrad [14:00]
Fear. Fear is what’s stopping you from pushing past your ego and being self-aware. But if you see fear honestly, then you have a self-love issue. If you value yourself then you value your contributions. You’re not going to be afraid what others think of you.
Ask yourself what you’re trying to achieve. Analyse your fears, work out where they’re coming from and if they serve you. When you have this clarity you’ll create a foundation of respect and love for yourself.
Know where your shit comes from and create some discipline.
What gets your juices flowing?
How many of you set your goals for the year and you think you have all the time in the world to complete them but it’s suddenly six months later and you’re sh*tting yourself because you’re not where you wanted to be?
Justin sets the tone for his content with this thought. Lately, he’s feeling frustrated about his progress this year. He knows he could be further along with his goals. Instead of doing something about it, he finds himself retreating to his comfort zone. Being a creative rather than a business owner.
In an exercise to recalibrate himself he asked himself these questions:
- Where do I need to start taking action?
- Where do I need to build new habits?
- Where do I need to create discipline?
These questions influenced Justin to plan out his perfect day. If money and responsibility was no concern to him, what would he do?
Justin poses the question to the group: If money was no concern, what would you spend your day doing?
Conrad would do the exact same thing. No one is surprised. So moving on.
Travis would travel and camp all the time. Unfortunately, this answer wasn’t acceptable.
The group challenge Travis to question if he’s not doing what he loves every day then why is he doing it? Why doesn’t he go and travel every day if he loves it more?
Comfort zones can give you a kick. Being validated that you’re good at something feels good. It’s easy to revert back to what you’re good at when you’re challenged. Travis shares that yes he would love to be traveling more, but he also likes routine.
Marco is currently working towards his videography dream. Every day he wakes up energised by his passion for it. Soon he’ll be resigning from his engineer job with Shell to pursue videography full time.
Matt has jumped industries a couple of times now. He believes he’s now in a place where he’s supposed to be. But if he had the resource, he’d take a week off.
Conrad didn’t accept this answer.
Readers, I want you to close your eyes. Now I want you to imagine a dramatic WWE RAW wrestling match between Matt and Conrad. It’s about to get heated. Check out [53:00] of the podcast to hear the full confrontation.
Conrad confronts Matt about lying about what he’d do if he’s being honest with himself. Why would you take a week off if you loved what you do? If you had the resources, why would you choose to take time off?
“You go on your holiday. I’ll be at work, doing the shit” - Conrad [54:00]
Matt concedes that if he had the resources he would invest back into property development, as well as his marketing agency.
I think the moral of this story is if you’re doing what you believe you’re passionate about then you’re doing the right thing. But you need to use self-awareness as a tool to ask yourself if you’re where you want to be. If it’s not, then what’s stopping you?
That’s it. That’s the podcast. You all survived, but Matt barely made it out alive.
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